Thanksgiving, the American tradition that can be traced back to the pilgrims, is one of the reasons people love autumn.
However, with the passing of time, all traditions get different, more contemporary forms.
So, a couple of years back, the world witnessed the birth of Friendsgiving: a celebration of the same nature as Thanksgiving, with one fundamental difference – it is celebrated with friends. Although it was only added to Urban Dictionary in 2009, it has been practiced for years. Most notably on the T.V. show “Friends.”
The new age asked for such a change.
With people living on-the-go, constantly moving countries, more often than not people can’t make it back home during the holidays. As time goes by, celebratory family dinners get fewer attendees, so it is imperative that society thinks of a way to keep the tables full, and the festive spirit burning.
This new take on Thanksgiving gives the holiday a new meaning. New foods and new drinks are making their way to the table. And so is your group of friends.
But, in order to throw a successful Friendsgiving, there are a couple of things to mind.
Here are the most common three mistakes that can easily take you from to merry side and throw you to the grumpy side – and how you can avoid them.
Not Creating a Guestlist
First things first: let’s talk about the guest list. Although the “the more, the merrier” stance is commonly accepted when it comes to parties, it is practically impossible to adopt it for a celebration such as Friendsgiving. No matter how much you want to gather every single one of your friends and their plus ones, chances are, your dining table will not have the space to fit them all.
So, creating a specific guest list is not a matter of will, it is a matter of necessity.
After creating the guest list, send off some invitations. The difference between Thanksgiving and Friendsgiving is that your family plans the party together, while the Friendsgiving party is an individual planning affair. So, the only way for people to know that there’s a gathering going on is if you tell them.
Here are a couple of our invitations to give you an idea of what you should be looking for. All of them come in sets of 20, so getting just one pack will be more than enough.
Also, do not forget to mention that it is an intimate gathering and that they should not expand the guest list by bringing over other people. Believe us, although you might feel bad for asking this of them, your friends will understand.
Not Asking for Help
Although you are throwing the party and you’re the one that’s responsible for picking the tablecloth, setting the silverware and decorating the place, that does not mean that you should be the one that takes care of everything. Nor that you should foot all the expenses.
Ask your invitees to help out by bringing a dish to the party. But, make sure you’re specific – if you ask everyone to bring over whatever they want, you will most likely end up with an incomplete menu (we’re betting you’ll have more desserts than mains).
Also, welcome new recipes. It’s is time to spice up the traditions.
Oh, and don’t forget to tell everyone that it’s a “bring a bottle” (or a six-pack) party. That way, everyone can enjoy the toasting without any interruption by an “It seems we’re out of booze” statement.
Being Stressed Out
Listen, there are zero reasons for you to worry. Throwing a party for your closest friends is the same as being with your family: everyone is understanding even if something does not go as planned.
If you want to minimize the chances of any surprises and make everything go as smoothly as possible, it’s enough to follow our suggestions and plan out both your and other people’s contributions to your Friendsgiving.
A few days before the bash, send a reminder, along with everyone’s responsibilities for the party.
Oh, and stock up on stain remover. That way, not even the wine spills can surprise you.